Tuesday 28th June

Our sleepy bunny is still sleepy and sad and angry. Sausage roll, croissant, iced donuts and fat fat latte for breakfast :)

Ben's hospital Bed is like a power ranger it transformed into a bit of a chair like jobby

Soooooooooooooooo now it seems Ben may be able to come home end of week after all? with oral antibiotics and ambulance to Barts on Tuesday - then depending on how the procedure goes he will either be ambulanced back home or back to hospital - bleeding hell! Then ambulanced back for irons to be removed in 3 weeks

It is general consensus that a bit of home could be just what the doctor ordered for Ben - watch this space - see what happens tomorrow - guys if you plammimg to visit at the weekend just hold fire and watch this space. Its going to be tireing for all of us making this transition - thanks a bundle x

Met with ward sister, made my apologies, made my point, what a fantastic lady such an inspiration and so we carry on doing our job with Benno

Nice visits today - thank you guys xx

Fingers crossed for the next few days Ben we love you so much lovely boy

Sam - welcome home baby missed you so much and nice chcken xx

Nite Ben darling from us all xx see you tomorrow hons xx

Tuesday 28th June

I found out early this morning that Mandy has gone home as her husband did not make it - he lost his fight for life - there are no words ;(          -Life is so precious - Ben you are so precious

Monday 27th June

Spirits low all round at the minute we are all trying but this is just so hard especially for Ben

Another week, another Monday, another busy mad doctors day - So here we go -  pain medication not as controlled as it should be so thats been tweeked and added to

Bens iron work will be removed in 3 weeks time

Right leg really really painful

Catheters still infected

Booked into Barts nextt Tuesday for cyctogram and catheter change

Still on IV antibiotics

Ben has no energy is knackered, tired and miserable

Cheered up when visitors came today

The ward is hot and mad busy with too many visitors and it stinks!  Tempers are frayed. I was furious when I found out Ben  was fluked  into signing some visiting rules and regulation agreement.  When I found out I lost my rag, stormed into the nurses station snatched it back and ripped it into pieces in front of the nurses face whilst going into one at the same time! It took me 20 minutes to calm down, return and apologise. I have requested a meeting with the ward sister in the morning to disucss the care that David and I give to Ben on the ward day in day out.

More news but I dont have the energy to go into detail as things will probably change yet again tomorrow. Basically Ben  has another infection and he wont be able to come home until after his procedure at Barts tomorrow week or poss the Weds ...................................................................

Its been such an emotional day and it is obvious that Bens needs are changing constantly both mentaly and physically. We are a very close and loving family with a strong network of family and friends and will take this journey together. Our only concern is for Ben at the moment and if we upset anyone along the way we can only apologise and ask you to understand.

Thanks to everyone for their visits and messages of support please keep them coming as its good medicine for all of us especially Ben

Thank you to my sister Tina for everything - I love you the world

Cant wait to see Sam tomorrow

I am so worried about lady I met on Thurdsay evening in the hostel as I havn't seen her about?  Her hubby was involved in a hit and run cycle accident and has similar injuries to Ben - he is in intensive care. Fingers crossed he will do as well as Ben. We shared a bottle of sauvignon, talked about Ben and her hubby and had a big cuddle at the end of the evening. Be strong Mandy I am sure your man will do good xx


Lots of love

Mumma, Dad and Sambo

Ben and Rachel

Ben wth friends from Oaks Park - Mel and Naomi

Just a few piccys

Oi get his bleeding hat off!

Sunday 26th June 5 weeks today

David and I both stayed over at the hospital last night as Sam and Sam are in Madrid for a little break

Ben happy this morning but then got upset about everything :((

He had a nice visits from Mel and Braddles today. 

Spaghetti and sausages for brekky with little toast squares ahhhhhhhh bless and a really bad for you KFC - but he thoroughly enjoyed it.

He is having a lot of pain in his right leg which seems to be getting worse - Doctor day tomorrow so we can ask our questions then.

His abdominal woulds are healing nicely now as is the one underneath.

Infection seems controlled but the weather today has been a bummer in here.

This is really hard for you Ben but you are doing a great job honey xx

Lots of love

Mumma, dadda and Sambo on holiday

xx

Saturday 26th June

Ben very tired and miserable in the morning.  Was in pain a lot with wound cleaning and dressing changes as the nurse was really rough and kept karate chopping him! Wasn't funny at the time but the thought of it really makes me laugh :))

Lovely quiet day with a nice visit from Nanny and Grandad :))

Then it was just David and myself -  chilled day

Love you Benzo

xx

Friday 24th June

We were kind of under the impression that we might still be able to bring Ben home today if we can arrange for his iv antibiotics to be administered. I have spoken to the district nurses and they are happy to do this for Ben. However changing the canula may be a problem - (not a problem I can get this sorted :)

We discussed this with Fran - one of Bens trauma surgeons and thats a definate no no no no no no no no :(  and not an option  She said if there are complications he needs to be here so they can look after him. Ok so thats that then :(

Ben has been booked into Barts on Tuesday week for has his catheters to be changed. Until then his infection needs to be managed.

Lovely visit from Ruth Hill today - you said some good things - thank you -  Oops we forgot to take a piccy :(      

Lovely one to one with aunty Tina  (thats a first I think!)

Lovely visit with Sam and Sam before their trip to Madrid

Lovely visit with Rachel before her holiday and more cup cakes :)

Ben very sleepy after the past two very stressful days

Stab night came early!!!!!!!!! This morning there were 3 fully armed officers guarding a critically ill patient on our ward. They were protecting him as they were expecting the killer to come back and finish the job! This hospital is unbeleivable - nothing like Holby lol

There are four guys in our room -  our Ben,  lovely Peter who has suffered a really horrific accident and lost both his legs, then a young guy who has been attacked with a machete half his arm missing and a split open stomach - nice!  lastly another young lad who have been stabbed 14 times. ummmmmmmmmm gang warfare!

Good night darling boy, sleep tight

Mumma, Dad and Sambo

xx

Thursday 23rd June

What a shit crap day :((

Urology eventually turned up at about 1600 from Barts when they should have been here early this morning. Ben is so angry.  They knew nothing about Ben or his case - they decided on a plan of action but catheter removal not an option  as its to early for the urethra to have repaired, taking it out now is a definate no no. Ben has been booked into Barts Tuesday week.  In the meantime a course of antibiotics and he can still come home :)

Half an hour later.................................. in comes one of Bens doctors from the trauma team with a very differant story?

Basically it is not an option for Ben to come home. He needs to stay here for iv antiobiotics and to be monitored. There is a possibility he will become poorly because of the infection so he will need to be cared for professionally.

We are all so disappointed :((

Ben is so angry !!

Suggestions please for him to vent his anger bearing in mind he is quite restricted at the minute because of his abdominal wounds and metal work.

Facebook Ben, he wont answer but he does look at it - thanks

Sorry Ben you are so dwon :((   but it is for the best hon - if I see that guy from Barts I will  stick a kebab with extra chilli sauce up his arse ;))

Keep being strong you are doing so well!

Mumma, Dad and Sambo


Massive thanks to all of you guys supporting Ben it really helps and his visits are the high point of his day. I know there a lot of people who still want to come but have been waiting - thanks for that :)  Its fine now so give me a text on 07989 356491 to sort out a date

To our unofficial messenger you know who you are. Ben is allowed visitors so stop telling people otherwise you are so pathetic and should be ashamed of yourself.  Always such an attention seeker its amazing how many people cant see through you. 

Thursday 23rd June

13.15 nil by mouth - still waiting for urology :(

Ben pissed of big time and sleeping like a baby x

Wednesday 22nd June

Team Work!

Paving slabs laid
Wheelchair ordered
Hospital bed being delivered tomorrow
House re arranged (thanks Tina and Sam)
District nurses sorted for wound care and catheter care at home
District nurses sorted for physiotherapy at home
Ambulances for transport sorted
GP advised
Stoma services sorted
occupational health sorted
Everything sorted today for Ben to come home

Wounds looking horible but heading in right direction
Pain controlled
Orthopaedics happy with progress and x fix doing its job
General surgeons happy with their stuff . They tested specific muscles and were happy that the repair has been sucessful so thats great news for reversal treatment further down the line :))
Bones mending.
Right leg still crap

grrrrrrrrr - blood and urine results back - Ben has an infection :((((

So he cant come home tomorrow - he has been referred back to his urologist who is bassed at Barts. They will com to see us tomorrow for a plan of action but it is likely he will need another procedure.

Shit Crap, Bollox, poo!!!!!!!!

See what tomorrow brings?

Well done today Sam - it was a very difficult day for you - Thanks Amber and Mrs Hudson for your support xx

Mumma, Dadiosa and Sambo

xx

Wednesday 22nd June

Team work!

Tuesday 21st June

Trying to get things sorted for Ben to come home - so much to sort out!

Ben is still having trouble down below and test results not back yet. Had another cystogram today to see whats going on with the bladder and urethra/catheters

Aiming to come home for 3 weeks rather than transfer to Queens Hospital.  Looking at either Thursday or next Monday but need results from abdominal swabs and urine to make sure there isn't any bacterial growth.

Lots of nice visits today from Aunty Kath, Nathan, Rach and Alex (I think)

Mumma, Dad and Sambo

xx

Monday 20th June

Love Monday! Love Ben!

We got lots of info today which was all positive and heading in the right direction :)))))

Ben morpine has been upped from 80mg twice a day to 120mg twice a day and he still has hourly access to another 20mg if he needs it - today was great for Ben his pain was so much beter controlled - happy days :))

Still waiting for Orthopaedics we are hopeing he will come tomorrow - however there was a team meeting with him yesterday and the news is that the scan they did of Bens pelvis yesterday looks good. As we understand it they are looking to remove the x fix in 3 weeks

Underneath wound looking great and healing beautifully they thing another 2/3 weeks and we'll be there :))

Right leg doing ok and much better controlled with pain now morph upped

Ooooooh catherter down stairs excrutiating! Awaiting blood test and urine samples for infection :((

Back in for further surgery in about 7 weeks to see if urethra repaired and does the job :))

Abdominal wound still really nasty but a couple of areas do actually look slightly improved - waiting for swab results

Great news - as we didnt want  the transfer to Queens Bens rehab is going to be at home. He will have a nurse coming in every day possibly twice a day whilst he needs it.  Also physio coming home until the metal work is removed. We are looking at the end of the week or early next week which is amazing as we were first told he could be in hospital anything from 3 to 6 months!!! Every Doctor and team member working with Ben cant believe his progress! Young, fit, healthy and determined lad - go Beno! We are so so so so proud of your strength of body and mind - you are amazing!

Now is a mad rush (but thats fine we just want Ben home :)) trying to get everything in place for the transition home We are working with occupational health - its like a military operation - ambulances, out patients appoinments, hospital bed rental, wheelchairs, tables, surgery bookings, drugs and more drugs, nurses, physio, bags for this and bags for that, potions and lotions and mattress's and cushions and OMG - we just have a little house at the minute!

Thanks to everyone who has been here for Ben and to all the visotors and well wishers - you have all helped Ben to be strong, feel supported and loved - you to are all amazing too :))

Fingers crossed we stay on track - keep up the good work this week Ben - evey day is a step nearer to home

Haha Mr Richie - thanks for bringing  Ben's certificates today - Ben Staab what are you like 3 Bleeding A levels without even trying and you could not be bothered to pick up your certificates! - when you feeling better I am gonna give you such a slap boy!

Lots of love

Staabys

Sunday 19th June 4 weeks today!

Happy Fathers Day Daddy - Hope you liked you man bag lol

Bloody hell cant believe this has been happening for four weeks!!!!!!!!

Bad morning for Ben lots of pain they really need to sort out the cocktail - when he was in intensive care it did take a week so can understand but watching the pain is shits ville :((

Nurse Sam & I sorted him out in the morning - go girls - Tina and Rachel went on a wander to Petticoat Lane. 

Once Ben was morphed up he was a lot better - its all about pain control!!

Sam and I took Ben for a walk in the chair and left him stranded for the girls to find in a deserted corridor ;)  water out of reach and by the bin! Such a giggle but Ben got pissed off waiting in the end lol sorry Ben! Pictures on the way xx

Have 6 pages of questions for each of the surgical teams, cant wait for tomorrow, poops I am  so institutionalised forgot about fathers days and ousted poor hubby from the room as soon as he got there - sorry hubs :((   You did have nice times after we went when you prodded Ben and woke him up!!!

Grrrrrrr naughty but nice - you are a good Daddy  xx

Thanks to my sis for all the support you are amazing Nigel

Sam you are a star baby

David we all love you bundles

xx

Saturday 18th June

Nice to  walk into our little trauma ward on a Saturday morning to zero stab victims and a room full of police! Theres Ben, Andy, an old man who looks like he may be noisy and a young man who has lost both of his legs :(

Lots of right leg nerve pain today.  Abdominal wound still not looking likes its doing much at all.  Lots of pain and confusion with catheters. More cup cakes fom Rachel as sweeteners for the nursing staff hahahaha - keep it up Rachel ;)

Looked like an emotional visit with Perry Sopho - we luv you xx

Still dont like the weekends here it does not instill confidence.

Naughty sleep over with Sam, Tina and Rach, visit to Nandos and too much wine - touch of normality is just what the doctor ordered

Alright Nigel lol

We all love you bundles Beno

xx

Friday 17th June

Ben should have been in a limo all tarted up and off to Ascot with Brads family and friends for the day. That obviously cant happen so Ascot is coming to Harrison Ward :)  Brad and Sam you are such cuties for spending the day here with Ben instead - David you need to learn how to blog as I have no idea if you guys had any winners? Good time had by all though :))

Sam Pye I am disappointed in you for not dressing up as a horse!

Medically - It was meant to be a quiet day for Ben today so he could just chill with pals - he did eventually but because of a problem with his abdominal wound site he was again pulled and pushed and prodded. The area is not healing so another swab has been taken - once the results are back we will be advised and given a treatment plan.  It is such a shame this area is causing so much trouble :((

Bens right leg has a lot of nerve damage and has been giving him more and more pain over the past few days.  Still trying to get the medication cocktail right - getting there.

He was also taken of unexpectedly for a pelvic xray - No one knew about it on the ward? Must have been requested by the 'big boys'  Cant get any results till Monday as another shite weekend is looming!

Not sure if I mentioned before but there was talk of transferring Ben to Queens hospital until his fixator is ready to be removed in 2-4 weeks - None of us were happy about this. We have been talking with the trauma team and occupational health about our concerns. It has been agreed that Ben can bypass Queens and come home when his wounds look like they are healing and he is able to get him self  back and forth from bed to wheelchair. Great news!!

Soooooooooooooe need to hire or buy a hospital bed, a couple of wheechairs and one of those electrical recliners that shoves you out haha - does any one have any contacts?

We were prepared for 'Friday night stab night' in Whitechaple but didnt happen as this afternoon we took delivery of another 3 patients who are more long term - so now more daily in and outs of arseholes and old bill :))

One of the new 'guests' is Andy - he had a cycling accident and was in the intensive care room with Ben when they were both critical a few weeks ago. Its funny our families know each other so well now - they were both formally introduced today :)) I am sure they will forge a lasting friendship and benefit immensly from chatting to each about their accidents and feelings - BT says" its good to talk"

My Sister told the girls (Rosie and Amy) about Bens accident yesterday and they came to see Ben today. They are only young and took the news really well. They were over the moon to see 'their Ben'. Now we stop telling little white lies :)) Well done girlies for being so brave xx.

Hugs and kisses all round was a good day today

Love you the world Ben we are all so very proud of your strength and courage

Looking forward to a peacful weekend in Harrison with our new guests :))

xxxx

Mumma, Dadda and Sambo

Thursday 16th June

The days go so fast here and there is no specific time for dressing changes, washing, physiotherapy, Doctor visits, pain team visits, research visits ect - but we do know lunch is at 12 and dinner at 6 :)
Ben had a special xray today to see if his bladder laceration has repaired - it was distressing for Ben but he did a grand job - thanks for your support ladies (you know who you are)

We had some conflicting reports and goalposts changes which again was upsetting for Ben. Dont think the communication between the 'old boys' was great today - come on urology sort yourselves out please. Bens bladder tear is repaired so step 1 in the right direction - woop woop Benny Boy! Step 2 in either two weeks or 4/5 weeks ? confused.com, another question for the 'big boys' on Monday morning.

Well done today David and Ben xx

Well done today Sam on getting through your media exam - you are a star xx

Thanks to everyone for your on going support xx

More Visits!

Francis and Ben

Another lovely chat with Mr Foster xxx

Gemma and Ben

Ben and his Rach xxx

Thanks for the dvds Lee  :)

Thanks for Bens goodies Lou and Danielle xx

Thanks for the clear liquid Mr Foster

Thanks for the chocs Dad

Thanks Kathy for all the food

Thanks Gill for all the food

Thanks everyone for all the lovely messages

Thanks Sams teachers for all your understanding

Thanks eveyrone for your support xx

Thanks for visiting

Ben lookng forward to head cuddles tomorrow Rachel xx

Good luck tomorrow Sam you are amazing :))

Thanks Tina for being there all the time for me :))

Wednesday 15th June day 24 possibly

Phoned ward as per normal at 0400 -  his lovely nurse for the night Arnie told me he had been sleeping since I left last night at 2100 - whoop :)

Went to see Ben at 10am laden with full on fatty food to replace the store which his body is eating up! - sausage in roll with too much butter! hot cross bun with too much butter, sausage roll and a full fat latte with too much sugar :)

Thank goodness he was a lot brighter today, fed, watered and visit from pain team.  Upped his morpine to 80mg twice a day he has access to morphine orally as well - another 20mg hourly - thanks for that :)) Gonna re assess other pain and nerve meds in the morning

We bumped loads of medical peeps today so Ben could have a chilled, less stressful day. No physio. I went to Argos to buy weights for Ben and nearly passed out carrying them back - forgot they would be heavy! (What an arse!)

Nice lunch, visits from Dee, Phil, Craig Foster ,Danielle Lou and Lee - forgive me if I have forgotten you lol am brain dead!

Nice lunch - thanks hopital, Nice dinner thanks Kath xx

David sleeping tonight, Ben alsleep very early but he had a busy day with lots of visitors. Lovely to chat with Chrissie tonight xx

Nandos for me thank you Sam :))

Glass of wine or two ;))

Mumma, Dadda  and Sambo xx

Tuesday 14th June Day 23

Ben had an ok morning but it gradually deteriorated as the day went on.  His self administrating PDA was removed so the expectation was that the pain team would again need to find the right dosage of morphine and his other pain medications.

He had a nice visit from Francis and Gema. When they left if all went a bit pear shaped for Ben and he was in terrible pain for a few hours.

It was all a bit full on today with no breaks in between washing, rolling and dressing changes.  As soon as this was over it was the physio's getting him in and out of the wheelchair.  Too much for a very hot day and not well controlled pain releif.

Sad and disressing day for Ben - hon you are amazing and doing a fantastic job - weak you are not!!!! Everyone is willing you on.  Keep strong honey  you are gonna have good days and crap days but everyday is a day nearer to you coming home lovely boy xx

We love you bundles and will be here every step of the way with you x

Bring on the liquid morphine please!

Mumma, Dad and Sambo

Brothers and sisters - Forever friends xx

Nathan and Ben what great lads

With a little help from my friends - Fifi and Pye :)

Ahhhhh  cuties = Rach you stuffing your face lol

Where's the bleedin lift?

Monday 13th June Day 22 (I think)

Monday is Dr Day so armed with notebook, pen and lots of questions

Need to get some weight back on the boyo so plenty of protein, carbs and fats! Gotta stop that body of yours eating your fat store. Thanks aunty Tina for sausage in a roll for brekky, then Percy Ingle for saugage roll, donut and a fat coffee with far to much sugar! Lunch from the hospital mince meat, rice,carrots and brocoli followed by rice pudding. Thanks Gill for the lovely roast dinner and that yummy stuffing !!!! Plus the protein drinks and snacks

Ben was a happy bunny this morning - visit from his pelvic surgeon  Mr Bates and his team - what an amazing man :))  All positive feedback, he is happy with the repair to date and says its all fitting back together better than expected. We will get a progress xray at week 4. His bones are mending well.  Bens right leg has nerve damamge so it may take up to 18 months to get back to normal.  Lots of nerves have died or been badly squashed and bruised but they will regenerate over time. Interesting to find out that nerves regrowth at the same rate as finger nails. He has better movement in his left leg today and can put just a little weight through it when trying to manouvre from his bed to his wheelchair.

Visit from general surgeons - they are happy with his underneath wound. It is clean and has lot of good red tissue and blood supply.  Still packing and dressing daily.  The abdominal would is still a mess but the surgeon managed to cut away a lot of the dead tissue (well done Ben!!!) This is going to take some time to heal but looking  positive.

Ben bones will mend and his woulds will totally heal in time. He will have some great shark stories to tell in his speedos on the beach!

Visit from pain team - Reassessed medication - still on PDA morphine and other pain medication but now bringing in something new for him nerve pain.

Visit from Trauma Team - they are amazed by him progress :))

Visit from Occupational Health - talking about home and needs in the coming weeks

Visit from physio - Ben did a great job of getting himself from bed to wheelschair and back. Not much help from anyone! Well done boyo - nice little walk  for about 15 minutes xx

Good day well done Staaby xx

Saturday 11th June

Sad day for Ben - weekends are crap in this hospital nothing gets done.

3 new patients all stab victims from last night :((        What a shit hole this area is!

Chin up Ben we are all here for you darling and at least we dont live here!  Lets hope for a better day tomorrow :)

Mumma, Dad and Sambo xx

Sunday 12th June 2011 Day 21

Sad and and unhappy morning for Ben - honey just want to huggle you up and take you home, beleive me,  if we could we would!!!!! Breaks my heart to see you so down lovely boy :((

Sams 18th birthday and OMG has she been spoilt!!!!

Ben the ring you got for Sam was the second best present but the first was you in your wheelchair waiting for Daddy and Sam at the main entrance (shame the nobs whent upstais!!! lol)

WE have an amzing day Sam and me and Dada and Pye and Rach and a surprise from aunty Tina and Charlie :))

Another day nearer to you coming home my lovely - cant wait to have you back - promise to look after you and support you until you take the piss lol (JOKING)

Always there for you

Mumma and Dadda and Sambo

xx

Friday 10th June 2011 Day 19

David with Ben this morning for wound cleaning and dressing changes as very unpleasent with the new abdominal problem.

Aunty Tina arrived and played Florence Nghtingale for a good part of the day - Ben slept all the time whilst Tina sat and held his hand - ahhhhhh cute (orrrr was he bored!)     hahahah not really sis - love you and thanks for all your support the past 3 weeks xx  He loves you bundles and bundles and happy to see your moosh when he opened his eyes every so often :))

It was like being in a private hospital today after all the other parients were discharged -  bliss - dont spose thats gonna last long as we are in yummy (scummy!) Whitechaple. Friday night is stab nght! What a shit hole ............................. David keeps telling me its trendy ??? (I didnt mean it was trendy to get stabbed, ummmmm
 actually maybe it is here!)

Then Steve Palmer arrived with a bag of goodies and a cheeky mag ;)) Thanks Tina said you made him do big smiles xx

Lastly Brad Stoughton - you made him laugh out loud - no idea what you guys were doing on the laptop!

Not much to report today everyone left him alone to recover from yesterdays efforts, his body is knackered - Sleep sleep sleep zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

Sweet dreams Ben

Mumma, Dad and Sambo

Thursday 18th June Day 18

Day started in the hospital at 10.00 to meet one of Bens speciality nurses.  No probs with infection all ok and nothing to worry about in that area - had a bit of a lesson in care.

Continued in a bit of a blur for the next 4 hours with visits from pain tean, physio, truma and urology. So much to diegest. Some things we dont blog and others we share. Getting introduded - plans and goals for the next 12 months - a good thing we were all ready for the next stage in order to make domr desisions.

Ben was good this morning and then

Thursday 9th June 2011 - Just a few pictures for you all :) xxx

Ben and Mum!

Sitting up during a physio session :D

Thursday 9th - First wheelchair attempt, go on benjamino!!!! 

Beautiful little bobs comes for a visit :)

Wednesday 8th June (cant think what day number)

David slept at the hospital last night so it was morning duty for him - but its lovely - quality time :)
He had to meet with a specialist nurse at 10am on the ward to look at potential problem with one of Ben's thingies but all was well and site is being monitored.  Poor Ben - emotional morning bit of a melt down (good thing) so much to cope with - didn't help being so shattered after his day yesterday with the prick opposite (Sorry Mr Patient) who snored/snorted/groaned/grunted all bloody night and caused my boy stress! (if it had been me in Ben's bed I would be thinking 'oh well another night in Staabville'! Anyway -  Mr Patient poodled off home this morning - good news! Expectation of who is gonna be joining us next though????

Ben was trollied (no such word) off to ultrasound with hubby in tow - there he waited for 2 hours .........................  then back to ward and its like maybe 2.30pm or 3.00pm?  Sam and I had bought a special treat (yuck) chicken nugget happy meal with a strawberry milk shake and a toy  (bless) - but by the time he got back bloody  COLD :(         He still ate it all and thoroughly enjoyed it.

Thing is we didn't realise till 5pm when chatting to Ben that he had not been washed. bed hadn't been changed, dressings not changes, rods and bars not cleaned, site wounds not cleaned and dressed, packing not sorted and bag full of pee pee!!! hmmmmmm sooooooo mummy staab did one at the nurse (oooooh but had to be said!)
All sorted - lovely clean boy and then shaved by Dadiosa - looks amazing - just wanted to try to wash his hair but not having any of it today - knackered he is - oh well anther day tomorrow.

Bye bye tired Sam and well done today you are a star, bye bye David sorry I got cross this morning x

Hello uncle Charlie who popped in. You really made Ben laugh massaging his leg very fast, actually too fast! Fancy making my boy think rude thoughts about Rachel - haha love to see you smile and giggle like that Ben xx

All in all an eventful day, oh yeh  there is a wheelchair with Ben's name on it in the unit - so watch this space :))

Sleep tight little man we all love you bundles and are so proud of you and Sam you are a star the bestest!!!!

Mumma and Dadiosa

xxxx

Oh yeh old boy came in tonight poor thing had fallen the complete length of the escalator at Liverpool Street.  He is a bit of a mess. The nurses were trying to get him to slide from trolley to bed but it was kinda like a double bed and he thought the nurse was gonna jump in with him! lol cheeky sod - very funny and another big giggle from ben x x

Tuesday 7th June Day Day 16

A truly horrible day for Ben  - he suffered terribly when taken for a CT scan and lifted. Wont go into detail. Doctors cant work out where the source of bacterial infection is. More cultures being done. Later in the day procedure carried out bedside (thank god)  by one of his Dr's to drain build up of fluid from his hip - sent to lab -awaiting results. No physio today not well enough. So knacked and needs to sleep but they just wont leave him alone :(

Know they have to keep doing their stuff and they are wonderful so not moaning just wish he could zzzzzzzzzz.

No visitors tomorrow please planned or otherwise he needs to rest

Just to finish the day off nicely Sam got an email from the only university she has applied for (to study photography) which is in Southend (we are moving to Thorpebay) They have removed the course. Great timing!!!!!!!!! She is devastated and has a 12 hour AS starting in the morning!!

Fuck today

VISITORS

Ben loves to see you guys his visits from friends old and new keep him going but can be very tiring.  Now he is in surgical trauma ward the visiting times have changed.  We are planning his visits best we can as it can just get to much for him. You can text me on 07989 356491 or blog me. All wishes welcome for a much better day tomorrow x
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SAM

Good luck baby girl for tomorrow - 'chin up' get in there are show them how clever, artistic and strong you are! All this shit is happening for a reason and we will get you sorted  -promise lovely girl - not let you down so far have we ;))

You are such a fantastic daughter and the very best sister your Benny Boy could wish for xx

Mummy and Dadioso -We  love you the world baby face

Monday 6th June day 15

Walked in on Ben hollering at lunch time :(       He had a really busy day being pulled and prodded and jabbed and manouvered.  Unfortunatley he has another infection so various bloods and swabs taken for culture.  Temperature really high and in quite a lot of pain early in the day.  He had the rest of the stomach staples removed today. Poor boy was in terrible pain with his tinky winky (hahaha sorry Ben embarrassing mummy moment lol) Not for to long though they gave us a syringe of magic numbing cream - thanks Doc ;)) They think he has a urine infection as well.

Even though Ben felt so crap and with a 39. something or the other temperature he insisted on working with the physios - he was amazing, they had him sitting on the edge of the bed and because him stomach swelling has decreased he was nearly in a sitting 90' angle without to much probls with the rods pushing in him tummy.  They tried to get him to manouvre into a special chair but the apparatus were wrong - FANTASTIC effort Beno you are a wonder boy!!!!

Watch this space - tomorrow they coming armed with bannana board and wheelchair ............

Funny old day lots of lows but what a HIGH!

Sleep tight baby xx

Mumma , Dad and Sambo


xx oh yeh and n unexpcted visit from Lee armed with 2 sainsburys bags full of goodies - what a lovely guy - nice to meet you and thanks for Bens bits xx

Sunday 5th June Day 14

Another day ..................................

Sorry didnt get time to blog and I cant remember that far back :((

I do know he had some lovely visits and was really pleased to see Brad the Tat today! - all back on track so thats good ( no hard feeling Braddles just had to do what I had to do -what I thought was right for Ben at the time  - we luv ya x

Oh yeh and Steves Mum flew in the room posing as Bens new night nurse in a beautifully hand made nurses cape complete with her initials on the back - well actually a capital N (for nurse I think ;))  Oh yeh and made from your very finest tie top black rubbish bag!!!!

Shame I missed it but Sam said it was lovely to see you laugh like you did - well done Mrs Mac we cant wait for your next visit xx

Saturday 4th June 2011 Day 13

Bad start to the day for our poor Ben  ;(     Cant imagine to think what you are going through Ben but we are here for you honey xx

Was a lovely quite day with just Rachel and my Dad visiting - lovely and peaceful

In the afternoon it was just David and Ben watching the footy, Sam editing her wedding shoot and I have no idea what I was actually doing?  - just sitting with our Ben was actually very normal and like we were at home, just us, perfect :))  (but only for a while)

Bens pain is much better controlled.  He had 40 abdominal staples removed today because of infection and still has a massive underneath wound which in also infected and may take weeks to heal.

Love you the world, keep being strong, you are amazing hon xx

Mum, Dad & Sambo

Friday 3rd June 2011 Just day 12 ?

What a shit day ! :((

Tomorrow we gonna start again - you are amazing  Ben and we are all here for you baby xx

Love you all the world Ben and thank you so much aunty Tina

Mumma, Dad and Sambo

Thursday 2nd June

None of that horrible hospital food for Ben - hand made lunches and dinner with loads of calories and protein! Dont get used to it cos it wont last hon (only joking we will cook for you forever lol)

Great day for Ben his physios manouvered him so that he sat on the edge of his bed - not only this - he sat and did small leg raises and for the first time he is moving his toes ever so slightly. You managed all this in spite of your open wound, broken ribs and all the other stuff you are having to cope with.

Ben you showed amazing strength today and we are so proud of you!

Who would have thought you could be doing this after just 11 days

Bet you are sleeping for England now - hope so you deserve it! An inspiration and a special dinner for you tomorrow darling

We love you so much

Mumma, Dad, Sam xx

Wednesday 1st June 2011

Didnt finish off where we were yesterday :

Ben was told he has a special wheelchair on order that lies at 70 degrees - this is because he will be unable to sit at 90 degrees as the rods holding his pelvis together restrict movement and push on him abdomen - this is a definate no no because of the internal injuries he has sustained.

Bens list of injuries is never ending, we were shocked to find out today that he also has 4 broken ribs and a partially punctured  lung. (poor baby) :((     We are still waiting  for an MRI scan to ascertain whats up with him right leg and why he cant move his toes.  He is also waiting for a pelvic scan to make sure the fixator is in the right place.

Later in the day Ben was moved from intensive care into high dependency - which was really scary for Ben but a step in the right direction - the move was a little stressful but he settled ok - cant beleive the progress you are making my superman!

Weds - Ben was moved again - this time to The Surgical Trauma Unit - he is still on cocktail of medication for pain so is sleeping a lot. His temperature was sky high in the early sky high so his blood and urine are being tested for infection to either his rod sights which are leaking a lot or a particually nasty wound he has.

Ben is managing to eat small portions and is drinking plenty of fluids. Another drip has been removed and his swelling is decreasing all the time. Talking about food it seems that my spare ribs are better than yours Rachel hahahah but Aunty Kathy is a better cook than the pair of us! Bloody cheeky git Staaby! /best be careful what you say as you could end up with no bloody grub!!!

Well done Ben you are amazing, such a fighter and we love you so much - keep it up hon

Thanks again to aunty Tina for the meals on wheels - you keeping us going "toot toot"

Mumma, Dad and Sambo

xx